Two Sexes are Not Enough

- Aren't people who have both/neither kinds of genitalia a genetic mistake? Like there are XXY or XYY chromosomes? Or something didn't develop properly during development. This is different from species who can be both sexes or switch sexes interchangeably, which is natural because they evolved that way for survival purposes. - I agree that they shouldn't perform surgeries to "correct" babies that are not completely one sex or the other simply because this does do potentially emotional harm as the child reaches sexual maturity. Let the child decide what they want to do once they are old enough to make that kind of decision for themselves.
- And I guess just raise them whatever gender the doctor thinks they are, while trying not to push either one on the child, but making it up to them what they want to do. For example, go to dance practice or football practice? Want a doll or a truck for Christmas? - When I was little, I didn't really discriminate between what gender I was and my parents didn't push either way much. I loved to play Barbies, but was often the man (mainly because my older sister made me). I also loved playing with toy cars and trucks too. I loved fantasy adventure book like "Castle in the Attic" and "Indian in the Cupboard" which were mostly about boys. For Halloween one year, I was a football player. My dad actually encouraged me to join the football team, but I had no interest. When I joined band, I decided to play percussion (normally a boy instrument). I did lean toward the keyboard instruments though after a while (more feminine) but mainly because of my background in piano. I never allowed myself to be constrained by gender norms growing up. I wore shorts under my dresses so I could play on the playground and I had contests of strength with my girl friends. In 1st grade, I commonly wrestled a boy at recess that I didn't like. My parents let me be however I wanted. They even let me cut my hair short when I asked, though my sister teased me that I looked like a boy. I hated puberty and used to pray for tiny breasts. I am now quite feminine, mainly because of gender norms maybe, but I am not unhappy. I have succumbed to many gender norms with being unhappy with my body. I went through an eating disorder that I still deal with and even took breast enhancement pills. My refusal to let gender norms shape who I am though helps me fight these battles with my body. It is hard to not succumb sometimes. I have joined a sorority, but often feel like an outsider. I had mostly guy friends in high school, but now not many because things often turn sexual when I have relationships with men. I just got a job on campus with composting. It requires me wear gloves and steel-toed boots. My boyfriend, who is conservative, doesn't think I will be able to handle the job. I haven't started it yet, but will not give up because I want to prove it to him that I can. I like to play cards (poker, Euchre), but mostly guys play and I often feel a strong sense of aggression from them. They make comments about playing with a girl and I feel unwelcome when I play and often become intimidated by them and uncomfortable. I really resent it, but am not assertive enough to play equally against the, especially because I'm always outnumbered.